Perfectionism

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You clicked on this post. Let me guess. You are a perfectionist.

I loved reading Dare to Lead by Brené Brown. This book will challenge you.

I was/am a perfectionist. I seemed to be one of those high achievers. I had the job everyone coveted. I was a "successful" person.

But what was I really doing? Brené says it so brilliantly.

Here is how I define perfectionism:
Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimise the painful feelings of blame, judgment, and shame.

Perfection is self-destructive simply because perfection doesn't exist. It's an unattainable goal. Perfectionism is more about perception than internal motivation, and there is no way to control perception, no matter how much time and energy we spend trying.

Perfection is not a way to avoid shame. Perfectionism is a function of shame.

Does this describe you?

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